If you know me well, you will know that I am a HUGE One Tree Hill fan. I just finished watching the whole series last week and there are so many moments throughout that I absolutely love! But one moment in particular has just stayed with me since I watched it… “Happiness is a mood, not a destination”.
This is something one of the characters, Julian, said and it just hit me. We spend so long doing things that we think will make us happy. We tell ourselves that “once I’ve achieved this, then I’ll be happy” and we forget about the present.
Too long is spent thinking about the future. Thinking about the one day when your dreams come true. We put off our happiness for that day that may never actually come.
So long as we tell ourselves that we will be happy once we’ve reached that destination, we make it harder to be happy now.
Why is it like this? What makes us put off our own happiness for the sake of some distant dream in the future? Why can’t we be happy now, even if we haven’t reached that dream?
When I heard Julian say this to Brooke, his wife, on One Tree Hill, I thought about all the things I was waiting for to be happy. I thought about all those nights I told myself I would be happy once I lost weight (you can read more about my weight struggles here, here and here). How I would be happy when I got some much needed rest. And then I thought about all the times that I could have been happy, if I hadn’t been focusing on that destination in my head.
I suddenly realised that if I wanted to bring back that happy-go-lucky, positive and optimistic self that I know I am, I needed to focus on the here and now, not on the uncertainty of a future destination.
What makes me happy now?
I took a moment to think about what made me happy now. My lovely, caring boyfriend, my amazing family (yes, including that brother of mine!), my blog, the books I’m reading, the degree that I’m studying, the friends that I have, my Linguistics and Singing Society fam… I could go on but you get the idea.
I have so much to be grateful for and to be happy about, yet I spend so long feeling down and empty because of what I don’t have and what I haven’t achieved.
From now on, I really want to make a conscious effort to think of one thing every single day that makes me happy now. I want to remind myself of the good in my life.
Not only has One Tree Hill provided me with hours of entertainment (seriously, if you haven’t watched it already, you need to), it’s allowed me to see the bigger picture in life. It’s helped me to realise what’s really important, and it’s helped me see that the present moment is much more important than your dreams for the future*.
*This is not to say that dreams and goals for the future are bad, but accepting the present for how it is and allowing yourself to be happy about it, is more important that putting your happiness off for a future date.
Until next time,