Loneliness. It comes at the strangest of times. Sometimes you’ll be in the busiest of places, with hundreds of people around you; you might have even been interacting with other people! I know that’s a strange concept but it does happen! However, that doesn’t always stop you from feeling lonely does it? No, unfortunately not.
Well not for me anyway. Yesterday I went shopping, by myself, which I’ve done many times before and most of the time I actually prefer shopping on my own – you can get done so much faster! AND you don’t end up buying stuff that you don’t need or want – bonus! But yesterday I just felt lonely. I was walking around York, surrounded by other people doing the same, getting bits and pieces that I needed but for some reason I just felt isolated. The reason for this you ask? I didn’t have a clue. I was at my boyfriend’s house the night before, spent the morning with him and got a taxi back to mine before he went to work. After that I went into York and it was from then on I felt lonely. In the afternoon I just felt down, remote and miserable. Basically any negative feeling was just stuck with me yesterday!
But then it hit me – during the afternoon, I really had nothing to do! Now my friend and I were talking about this the other day and it does seem to be thing! If you have nothing to do, you can naturally start to feel lonely and depressed. You know I’m right! I can see your brains working, trying to think of a time you felt lonely and whether what I’m saying is right. And you’ve realised that I am – I did tell you! Who doesn’t start to get a bit down when they have nothing to do?
So what did I do about it you ask? Well I’m going to be honest here, my inner OCD came out and I cleaned my little flat from top to bottom – every nook and cranny. I wrote and re-wrote notes that I had made earlier in the week. I stalked some people on Facebook. I caught up with some of the soaps. I just found something to do and did it to try and feel more positive, more busy and most importantly, less lonely. After my horrendously busy day, I collapsed with a big accomplished smile and a glass of a well-deserved wine and watched Strictly (oh yes, I’m a MASSIVE Strictly fan!)
So I guess what I’m trying to say is anybody and everybody can feel lonely at the best of times, and at the worst of times. It doesn’t matter if you have a health condition or not, you can still feel lonely. And my advice would be that if you do ever start to feel like I did yesterday; lonely, depressed and just generally miserable; get up and find something to do. It honestly does help, and it doesn’t matter whether it’s a job that desperately needs doing or simply just a hobby of yours! I suggest getting some tunes and having a dance while you clean, its two birds and one stone then – clean house and happy self! Now I know from experience that’s easier said than done, especially if you’re ill but in that case I recommend you get your favourite TV series on and binge watch it or put your favourite feel-good chick flick on and I promise you, you will start to feel better for it.
Hope you’ve all enjoyed reading this and hopefully it’s helped and entertained someone out there! Again, I would love to hear back from you and I’ll be back next week with more!